Relearning

It's come to my attention that it's time to retrain myself to not behave in some of the ways I used to behave, out of necessity, when I was married. I feel sorry for my male friends because I do these things to them on a regular basis. They have been given permission to put me back in my place when needed (kindly, please). For example, in no particular order:

1. Not all men are irresponsible, needing constant supervision and reminders of what to do and when. Men are, for the most part, adult and capable of keeping track of themselves. And, if they're not, that is NOT MY PROBLEM!!!!!!!! I'm making a conscious effort to remind once and then bite my tongue. Luckily, then men that have to deal with me doing this are kind enough to be proactive and not put me in a position of having to do so - so far.

2. Doing everything myself is not in anybody's best interest. Again, it kills me to see something that needs to be done, that I know how to do, and not do it. Again, NOT MY PROBLEM. Although, you know, I see plenty of things in my home that need to be done and that are my problem, but I have no desire to do those things. Go figure.

3.  It's not fair to not trust a man simply because he's a man. Give the guy a chance, for heaven's sake!

I know there's more, but those are the biggies. And I can't change everything at once, so I will focus on those 3. It won't be easy, retraining 14 years of learning (almost half my life) will take some time, I suppose. But it will give me something to work on for awhile, like perhaps the rest of my life.