As I was walking through the store today, I decided to meander down the many aisles of Christmas decor which is already prominently displayed. I saw aisles of stockings and little Christmas villages, garland and trees, various forms of fake pine things, but mostly I saw ornaments.
This got me thinking - Of all the ornaments we own (or is it I own? Who really owns them?), probably 95 percent of them have a story. Of the ornaments with stories, probably 95 percent of those stories involve me and my ex. So, here's the question. Do I put those ornaments on the tree? My tree? Or, do I pack them away? Do I give them to him (NO!). What is the proper etiquette here? I just don't know. I suspect, because kids are involved, we will continue to put them on the tree as is. They are their memories, too. I will likely leave off ones that were specifically for our wedding (like the bride and groom with our names on it), but otherwise, the rest will go up. I hope it ends up being the right thing.
Box up the ones that are specifically for you and your ex. Your kids may want them someday. Hang the ones that celebrate the kids lives too. Then let the kids pick out some new ones that represent their latest interests. Pick out a few new ones for yourself, too. No one has to know that the new little donkey ornament you hang represents your ex!
ReplyDeleteHa! That made me laugh for a long time! Thank you :)
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